At Empowered Early Learning Academy #EELA, as the director, I have seen both the excitement and anxiety in children when they start preschool. A couple of weeks ago, I had a new student start, she was excited, ready to learn, and got along great with the students the first day. However, the next day at drop off she was in tears and having a rough time. The student thought that instead of just a nap, she had slept the whole night at school and didn’t want to be away from her mom for another night.  She was also nervous about navigating the preschool again without her mom. Separation Anxiety is common in preschool age children and a good sign of a healthy child and parent relationship. At EELA we can help families develop healthy drop off and pick up plans to minimize separation anxiety.

As a preschool parent, witnessing your child grapple with separation anxiety can tug at your heartstrings. The tears, the clinging, and the pleas for "just one more hug" can leave you feeling torn between wanting to comfort your child and knowing that fostering independence is crucial for their growth and development. Fortunately, there are strategies you can use to ease the transition and support your little one as they navigate this challenging phase.

Understanding Separation Anxiety:

Separation anxiety is a normal part of childhood development, typically peaking between the ages of 1 and 3 years old, although it can continue to manifest in various forms throughout the preschool years. It occurs when children become distressed at the prospect of being separated from their primary caregivers, often intensifying during times of change or stress. While it can be challenging for both parents and children, it's important to remember that it is a temporary phase that most children outgrow with time and support.

Building a Strong Foundation:

The key to mitigating separation anxiety lies in building a strong foundation of trust and security. Establishing consistent routines and creating a warm, nurturing environment can help your child feel safe and confident in their surroundings. At Empowered Early Learning Academy #EELA we encourage your child to tour the school before they begin. We provide a first day book in their enrollment packets, and children can come meet their teacher prior to the start of school.

Open Communication:

Communication is essential in helping your child understand and cope with their feelings of anxiety. Talk to them about what to expect when you're apart and reassure them that you will always come back. Encourage them to express their emotions and validate their feelings, letting them know that it's okay to feel scared or sad. Use simple language and provide plenty of hugs and affection to comfort them during times of distress. At the preschool we encourage parents to communicate with us about their child’s needs or preferred ways of comfort.

Establishing Rituals:

Create special rituals or goodbye routines to help ease the transition when parting ways. Whether it's a secret handshake, a special phrase, or a kiss on the hand, having a predictable ritual can provide reassurance and comfort to your child. Encourage them to participate in the process, allowing them to take ownership of their goodbye routine and empowering them to feel more in control of the situation

Leading by Example:

Children often take cues from their parents, so it's important to model confidence and positivity when facing separations. Remain calm and composed during drop-offs, avoiding prolonged goodbyes that can prolong your child's distress. Show enthusiasm for their preschool experience and highlight the fun activities and new friends they will encounter, helping them focus on the positive aspects of their day.

Staying Connected:

Maintaining a connection throughout the day can help alleviate your child's anxiety and provide them with a sense of security. Consider leaving them with a comforting item from home, such as a favorite toy or a family photo, to remind them of you during their time apart. At EELA we communicate through the procare App. You can see pictures of your child throughout the day and can send them small notes for their teacher to read to them. We always allow parents to come in and observe the classroom and their child.

Patience and Persistence:

Above all, be patient and persistent in your approach to separation anxiety. Recognize that progress may be gradual and setbacks are normal along the way. Celebrate small victories and offer praise and encouragement for your child's efforts, reinforcing their growing sense of independence and resilience.

While separation anxiety can be challenging for both parents and children, with patience, understanding, and consistent support, you can help your little one navigate this phase with confidence and resilience. By building a foundation of trust, open communication, and comforting rituals, you can empower your child to embrace new experiences at Empowered Early Learning Academy. Remember, this too shall pass, and before you know it, your little one will be bounding into preschool with a smile, ready to take on the day!